What Is EMDR Therapy? A Gentle Approach to Healing Trauma and Distressing Experiences
- Monique Verhoef RTC, MTC

- Jun 22
- 2 min read

If you've been exploring therapy options for trauma, anxiety, grief, or distressing life experiences, you may have come across the term EMDR therapy. But what exactly is EMDR, and how does it work?
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based psychotherapy approach that helps people process and heal from difficult experiences that continue to affect them in the present. Originally developed by psychologist Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s, EMDR is now recognized worldwide as an effective treatment for trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
How Does Trauma Affect Us?
When we experience something overwhelming or distressing, our brain may not fully process the event. As a result, memories, emotions, physical sensations, and beliefs connected to the experience can become "stuck." This can lead to symptoms such as:
Anxiety or panic
Hypervigilance
Intrusive memories or flashbacks
Low self-esteem
Difficulty trusting others
Emotional overwhelm
Grief-related distress
Even experiences that may not seem "traumatic enough" can have a lasting impact on how we feel about ourselves and the world around us.
How Is EMDR Therapy Done?
EMDR follows a structured eight-phase approach. During therapy, you and your therapist first spend time building safety, understanding your history, and identifying goals for treatment.
When you're ready, you'll be guided to briefly focus on a distressing memory while engaging in bilateral stimulation, typically through guided eye movements, tapping, or alternating sounds. This process appears to help the brain reprocess the memory in a way that reduces its emotional intensity.
Many clients describe the experience as allowing the memory to become less overwhelming. The event is not erased, but it often feels less emotionally charged and more like something that happened in the past rather than something that is still happening now.
What Can EMDR Help With?
EMDR is commonly used to support individuals experiencing:
Trauma and PTSD
Anxiety
Grief and loss
Childhood experiences that continue to impact adulthood
Negative self-beliefs
Stress related to difficult life events
Research suggests that EMDR can help reduce distress and improve emotional well-being by allowing the brain to process experiences more adaptively.
A Compassionate Path Toward Healing
Healing does not mean forgetting what happened. Rather, it may involve developing a different relationship with painful memories so they no longer hold the same emotional weight.
EMDR is not about reliving trauma in detail. Instead, it is a collaborative and structured approach that helps many people move toward greater emotional freedom, resilience, and self-understanding.
If you're curious about whether EMDR may be a good fit for you, speaking with a qualified EMDR-trained therapist can be a helpful first step.
If you're looking for EMDR therapy in Vancouver or online trauma counselling in British Columbia, feel free to reach out to learn more about how EMDR may support your healing journey.




